Dr. Phil's life law number 2

Dr. Phil's life laws are worth applying to those of us who live our
lives, day to day, with having herpes. It addresses how all of us
should live our lives, whether we have herpes or not, but this one
certainly hits home for me.

Life Law #2:

You create your own experience.

Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for
your life. Understand your role in creating results.

You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your
life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you
are accountable. If you are overweight, you are
accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable.
You are creating the situations you are in and the
emotions that flow from those situations.

Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to
build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no
healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem
by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've
been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of
yourself now.

Every choice you make — including the thoughts you
think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior
or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose
to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose
the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose
thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then
you will create an experience of alienation and
hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior
and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline —
you'll get the right consequences.

What those of us who are living with herpes, we need to take
our power back and not allow herpes to give so much power to
our lives. All of us need to just get out there and live
our lives to the fullest. It's the best thing you can do
for yourself and anyone else who you are closely involved with.