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Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Herpes, Towels and Transmission

Many people are rather concerned about transmitting the herpes virus to a family or household member. In regard to showering when you have a sore. What I have always done in the past and even tend to do it this way anyway, is to wash all non-outbreak areas first with typical soap and water, then follow the "proper" way to towel off. 

The proper way would be: dry your face first, then your arms, belly, legs then private parts and then feet (do the "clean" parts first then the "dirty" parts last). It's just like washing a baby if you ever had that demonstrated to you. If you have an active lesion - dry it off last (or even not at all - let fresh air do it for you!). If you use the same washcloth on your face as the rest of your body be sure to wash your face first, then your private parts. Once the washcloth is cool and dry any active virus on it is dead. The skin on our bodies is generally too thick for the virus to be that easily spread to other body parts. After your primary infection your body develops protective antibodies to help protect the rest of your body from herpes.

If you have more than one person in your household, then everyone should have their own towel, washcloth, toothbrush and razor and not share them anyway. It's for more of the risk of transmission of other germs/bacteria than herpes. The chances of transmitting through shared towel use are just theoretical anyways. Towels and washclothes stay wet and warm longer than other surfaces. You can still all share the same bar of soap in the shower too, due to the fats in the soap easily inactivate. So don't be afraid to share the family bar of soap in the shower as it is safe to share it.

If you're worried about others in your household catching it from your towel which might have been left lying around in the bathroom or laundry area, then once the towel is dry there's no chance of transmission anyways - the virus likes body temperature and once it gets cooler than that it starts to break down and isn't likely to be transmitted and dies within several hours.

You get herpes from direct skin on skin contact with someone who was infected with herpes. It is transmitted thru direct skin on skin contact with the genital area - routine day to day contact won't transmit it. It doesn't float thru water, get transmitted thru toilet seats or survive the laundry to infect anyone. the virus - it's very easily killed with soap and water.

Don't sweat it if you find out one of your family members use your towel/washcloth someday, because again, as soon as it's cool the virus becomes unstable and isn't going to be transmitted. The infected person would almost have to vigorously rub their towel over an open lesion and then hand it to someone and then they vigorously rub the same section of the towel on their genitals to transmit it that way which I don't think is going to happen so don't worry about it.

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Do you know if the Herpes virus is linked to HPV? Please help!

Tuesday, August 21, 2007 5:06:00 PM  
Blogger kate said...

I have always (thankfully) used color coded towels. I bought my son a "teenage sponge" special for just him to use. This has helped me relieve myself of worry of transmission. The article is very important. Good info! Thanks

Wednesday, September 26, 2007 6:51:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

Kate, even though the separate sponges/washcloths are not necessary, if it gives you peace of mind, there's nothing wrong with it. Plus, my kid seems to think that his scrubbie gets him cleaner than your basic washcloth!! lol And of course, he thinks (he's 15) that body wash is so much better than your basic bar soap!! Kids!! But seriously, if it makes you feel better, it's truly ok, but not necessary :-) Any kind of laundering is the best thing anyway.

Now that I mention this, I should remind my son that.....we don't put his scrubbie in the laundry every day but that I do launder the washcloths after each use. I never double use a washcloth, so hmmm, wonder if he'll get the ewwww factor from that just generally speaking :-)

Thursday, September 27, 2007 9:29:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks... this info is helpful. This is an issue that I've been worried about quite a bit since I was recently diagnosed.

Saturday, December 01, 2007 10:07:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

You're welcome. Glad I put the information on my blog too as I have found it to be a very common question/concern and understandably so. This virus can be a sneaky lil bugger. :-)

Sunday, December 02, 2007 2:54:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is how I got herpes, as an 8 year old. My father was colorblind and had herpes, of neither was I aware. I would bath at night and then quickly wash up in the morning. I have occasional outbreaks in my armpits. I can only thank god that I've never liked the texture of washcloths on my face, thus sparing my face from any signs of herpes.

Sunday, February 10, 2008 9:37:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

Are you positive that it is herpes you have under your armpits? Have you had it tested by more than one doctor? I'm not quite sure what your father being colorblind has to do with this?? I look forward to your comments and response.

Saturday, February 16, 2008 10:51:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for writing this!!!

Thursday, April 10, 2008 3:26:00 AM  
Blogger james said...

Hey great stuff pal!!
my son have been suffering from cold sores from 2 weeks.
Can cold sores also be treated naturally?

Tuesday, April 22, 2008 6:48:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

Hi James. Thank you for checking out my blog. These have all been common questions and concerns compiled here.

In regard to natural treatments? I seem to have read about a few, but I believe that your over the counter topical creams are probably the easiest to work with. I have read instances where eating chocolate has elevated people's outbreak times, but because I have, luckily, never experienced oral herpes, I've never had to deal with it. I know that for my genital herpes I have applied corn starch, but I'm not sure, unless they make some sort of invisible cornstarch how that would work for oral herpes. If nothing else, it might give him some relief while at home. I'd be interested to hear what you have to say about that, so please do stop back and let me know.

Thank you :-)

Tuesday, April 22, 2008 8:20:00 AM  
Blogger james said...

Hey Luanne,
thank you for your helpful advice.I hope that corn starch idea works for my son.I have been doing many surveys on treatment of cold sores..
I hope this stuff is going to help my son.Do you know any natural treatment for cold sores?

Friday, April 25, 2008 11:54:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My daughter was just diagnosed with genital herpes last week. I am devistated. I have two younger children and I am bleaching the tub,toilet and sink everytime my daughter uses the bathroom. I feel like the worst mother ever. What did I do wrong,to not educate my daughter better. She has her whole life ahead of her. I just recently bought Quickclear for her and her boyfriend and am praying it helps so she doesn't get alot of breakouts. Has anyone ever tryed it? This is a great website. I have learned alot. Thanks

Monday, May 19, 2008 5:57:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have genital herpes. Here is my question. Sometimes, when an outbreak occurs, it feels as if I have a kidney stone. It hurts very badly for a few days, and then a sore appears where the pain was. (Usually in the pubic hair region) Is this typical?

Saturday, December 13, 2008 9:18:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

feels like a kidney stone? Are you a male or female? I've had a kidney infection in the past, but that was more of an 'internal' feeling, but being a woman it was a pain in my back/side area.

Herpes appears differently for lots of people, yet acts/reacts the same too. How long have you had herpes?

I usually don't recognize that I'm having an outbreak until I'm wiping myself or feel as though I'm having a hemorroidal issue. My herpes tends to break out in my anal area and to me, it feels like hemmorroid problems, but because I now know that it's not, then I realize I'm simply having a herpes outbreak and I just deal with it and I know that it'll go away in a couple of days.

I suppose your body could have that type of reaction. Anything is possible.

Saturday, December 13, 2008 11:15:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a male... A reaction of some sort? I don't know. It's happened to me 3 times or so in the last couple of years. It is very painful until the sor appears, and then it's just the matter it a tender spot, and itching.

Sunday, December 14, 2008 11:27:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

I don't know. It's tough to say. Have you asked your Dr. about it or any other guys to see what their symptoms are? This is interesting for sure.

Monday, December 15, 2008 12:07:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know it's herpes. Was diagnosed 2 years ago. It's just painful as hell. The sore lasts for two weeks nearly.

Sunday, December 21, 2008 10:11:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

First I want to say thank you for this website. It truly has comforted me in ways only my girlfriend could (she knows). And it touches on a lot of issues I have been trying to find.

I was wondering what soaps you use. I have been washing my hands a lot lately because I am new to finding out about having simplex 2. I know this could sound far reaching but I think I might have given it to my hands and eyes before knowing what it was on my first outbreak. So if it is what would you do if you have it on your hands while in the shower? a glove? would you wear a glove all the time as touching hands is such a common thing as well as cooking,

Wednesday, August 19, 2009 7:50:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

is this blogpost still active?

Thursday, March 18, 2010 2:12:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

I'm not sure what you mean but it's live on the web, so yes it's still active.

Thursday, March 18, 2010 10:25:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this blog helped becuase my cousin has it and although she takes medicine fot the rest of her life it scares me becuase i have a family to protect.. plus its nt the only thing she has had.. im just scred shell end up getn hiv/aids.. im nt sure whts she thinking i needed to gt tht off my chest because i dnt think shes told ne body nd she eats after ppl ppl eat after her share drinks nd everything..

Sunday, April 17, 2011 1:03:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is really old, but i'm scared my friend used my bath sponge. I don't know where she used it or if she maybe used it on her genital area. Since you put soap on that everytime before you use it, would the soap kill the virus? I'm scared becuase she has symptoms of what is most likely a bladder infection, but bladder infection symptoms and genital herpes symptoms are very similar

Wednesday, June 22, 2011 10:24:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Sunday, April 17, 2011 1:03:00 PM

Herpes is primarly contracted by sexual activity. Unless she's having sex with you and your family, I don't see that you have anything to worry about. The virus only can survive a very short time away from the human body. She doesn't have the infection all over her body and as long as she cleans herself well, there shouldn't be a problem. Also, does she have genital or oral herpes? Oral might be a concern if she's having an outbreak and eating after others. I'm hoping she knows her body and herpes well enough to know how to protect others.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011 6:04:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

anon - Wednesday, June 22, 2011 10:24:00 PM

The virus doesn't live very long, even if she did use your bath sponge. Go back to using wash clothes, I think that solves alot of concerns that folks might have and just launder each time after use. Should be doing that anyway. I don't believe you have anything to worry about.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011 6:06:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a question. I get cold sores which is a type of herpes. Iv been getting them since I was little. I am always very careful when I get them. But I also get them if I get to much sun. I always use sunblock on my lips. Well last week I got a little to much sun on my face. I broke out in blisters on my chin and nostril area. I got in the shower tonght dried the rest of my body first and patted dry my face. About an hour later I was with my husband. I walked out of the room to find he had taken my towel out of the basket to clean himself. Any chance of this spreading to him??

Thursday, July 21, 2011 11:28:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from: Thursday, July 21, 2011 11:28:00 PM

I'm thinking an hour should be safe. I'm guessing you dried your face w/the towel. I'm not a Dr. but I'm thinking it's not an issue. Has your husband ever been tested for herpes? It's possible that he already has herpes and has never had an outbreak. Every one's body responds differently. For peace of mind, it never hurts to simply get tested to be sure. He won't "die" from it, that's the good part. But honestly, the virus only survives for a very short time away from the body.

Friday, July 22, 2011 10:48:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes I patted dry my face with the towel. I only get oral sores on my lips usually before or after getting sick. Sometimes in or on my nose if I'm blowing it a lot. I'm not sure which hsv that is. No my husband have never been tested. He has never had any breakout. Like I said I am very careful when I have one. I know when one is coming. I avoid kissing him, my kids. But these came from the sun. I patted my face dry with the towel put it in the basket only to find him using it. I just don't want something where I get a cold sore once in awhile to turn into a whole other situation. When I saw he had that towel on him I pretty much screamed Noooo and knocked it out of his hand. Because I don't know it can spread this way and that would mean he would have the genital kind, right??

Friday, July 22, 2011 11:54:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello I have small kids a 6 month old and 5 year old, what do I need to do to,keep them safe. I just found out today, my husband and I had oral sex then the next morring he woke up with a cold sore. I went to the doctor he said to wait 3 week and 14 days later I have little sores, I will be going back on monday. I was worried about funture and bed sheets and just about everthing in my house because of my kids, and changing my kids pampers.

Saturday, August 06, 2011 6:34:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for clearing my problem, I worked at a pool and I let one of the staff use my towel. When they were done I let it dry for awhile (note this happened during july where there was enough heat to boil an egg). Is that good enough to get rid of the virus?

Sunday, August 14, 2011 4:26:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from: Saturday, August 06, 2011 6:34:00 PM

Breathe, it's difficult to pass herpes along to your children unless you're kissing them if you have oral herpes. Maybe if you roll around on your furniture w/out clothes on. You have nothing to worry about. Just practice good clean habits in regard to towels etc and you'll probably be just fine. Mind you, I'm not a dr. and I too have a son who lives with me and he hasn't gotten it. Even if they do, it's only a virus. An inconvenient one, but just a virus and no one will die from it. Hang in there.

Monday, August 15, 2011 12:41:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Sunday, August 14, 2011 4:26:00 PM

yeah, I think it will be just fine. Don't share your towels and then you won't have to worry about it ;-) Seriously though, I don't think it's an issue. Not a Dr., but have been living with this virus for a very long time


Monday, August 15, 2011 12:45:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So if you have genital herpes its safe to kiss your spouse & kids still? Is it in my blood, so if I start bleeding from an open wound stay away from people?

Friday, September 16, 2011 1:16:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Friday, September 16, 2011 1:16:00 AM

with genital herpes, yes, it's still safe to kiss your husband and kids. If you have oral herpes, then you would just refrain when you're having an outbreak - ie: coldsore.

Herpes is not a blood disease.

Monday, October 03, 2011 12:37:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a question that I forgot to ask my doctor. I just recently got gential herpes. Then guy and I had sex and I also gave the guy oral sex but I got no blisters on my mouth but did have an outbreak on by vagina, he wasnt aware that he had herpes and neither was I bc he has no symptoms. Anyway I know I can pass herpes sexually now but if I gave the guy oral more than once and had no symptoms on my mouth can i pass it to anyone by kissing or sharing? I didnt know I got herpes from him until 2 weeks later bc I had an outbreak a few days later an I am currently taking medication and have been for 8 days and all my symptoms are gone.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011 10:57:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for this blog. I was just diagnosed today and having a tough time... It's helpful to see that other "normal" people have this too. My initial reaction was "people like me don't get herpes." I'm well educated and work in healthcare - I know better. Turns out my boyfriend had a cold sore (he had no idea it was herpes). I started getting cold sores from him... The doctor says I could have touched my mouth and then used the bathroom, and transmitted the virus that way...

It's very scary - but your blog is helping to put things in perspective. It is, after all, JUST a virus.

Wednesday, January 04, 2012 8:33:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

from anon Wednesday, October 26, 2011 10:57:00 AM

I'm trying to follow your question/comment. All it takes is one time to pass the virus on if you're in a contagious state and once you've passed it on, then the other person now has herpes. OK, I had to read your post a couple of times. Sounds like you got it from him and he didn't know he had herpes. You're asking if it's ok to kiss your mom or kids or anyone else? Bottom line is if you have cold sores and you're having an active cold sore outbreak, you simply need to refrain from kissing others (doesn't matter who) on the mouth. If you're not having any obvious outbreaks, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Mind you, I'm NOT a doctor, this is just my opinion. Hope that helps.
to anon from: Wednesday, January 04, 2012 8:33:00 PM

Thank you for your positive post. It's amazing how many people are ignorant to the fact that cold sores are herpes :-) Mind you, I was ignorant too about it until I got involved in the herpes community. Thank you for sharing your story.

Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:46:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow, I was just searching the internet regarding herpes and ways to transmit it. Its nice to know that there are many others out there. I have genital herpes where as my 12 daughter has oral. Her outbreaks are pretty bad each time, this one being her worst. Currently I too am having a outbreak and I was wondering if there is a correlation between the two? Also her virus seems so severe at times Im wondering if they can give her some sort of steriod? I typically dont have many outbreaks myself so this whole situation is kinda freaking me out. I dont want her to have genital and I dont want the oral virus....FREAKED OUT

Monday, January 16, 2012 8:31:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Monday, January 16, 2012 8:31:00 PM

How long has your 12 yr old daughter had herpes 1 (aka: cold sores)? I honestly don't know much about steroids but it certainly wouldn't hurt to ask the Dr. It could be triggered by something she's eating, stress or maybe she's newly infected? I'm not clear about that part. I've never heard of anyone "taking anything" other than OTC lip balms. She could also be having more severe outbreaks due to normal teenage body issues?? But again, I honestly don't know for sure about that.

I'm not sure about what kind of correlation you're trying to find between the fact that both of you are having an outbreak at the same time. If you're wondering about sharing towels and all that stuff and the chance of being reinoculated via that source, I don't think you need to worry about that. :-)

It'll be fine, just read through my other comments in regard to this topic. Just be smart about what you do and when you do it. You will both be just fine :-)

Tuesday, January 17, 2012 3:49:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thank you

Monday, January 23, 2012 4:34:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you all for your comments, my daughter was just diagnosed with genital herpes yesterday and we are both freaking out about spreading it to family members particularly her little brother because they share the bath room. She was also concerned that I would get it through washing her clothes, towels and bedding. This blog has answered all of our issues and we can relax a little now.

Friday, January 27, 2012 4:09:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thank you for this blog. i was diagnosed a couple of weeks ago with hsv 2 and since then my 9yr old has mentioned a bump on his buttocks and today i noticed a cold sore on his lip and another sore on his leg. I have been worried that he used my towel. If he used my towel, it could have been before or after I showered before I was diagnosed. Then this morning I noticed a rash on my 4yr old son back up his spine and buttocks. It has seriously made me nervous. My daughter also recently had a rash on her stomach. No blisters just a largeskin colored rash. I have been terrified that the antivirals arent working due to all these rashes and that we will be on big herpes family. Some websites suggest sharing towels can cause it to spread and if this is the case, the towels were still wet, just cooler.

Sunday, February 05, 2012 2:10:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Friday, January 27, 2012 4:09:00 PM

glad you were able to find peace

Tuesday, February 07, 2012 2:08:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Sunday, February 05, 2012 2:10:00 PM

I would have them checked out. Have they had chicken pox yet? I wouldn't call it herpes just yet.

I'd be curious to know what the Dr tells you.

Tuesday, February 07, 2012 2:14:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My partner and I were tested. She came back positive and I came back negative. I had the swab and the blood drawn. Since then, I've been whering condoms. Could I possibly have it regardless of my test results since we've had unprotected sex in the past before the test?

Thursday, March 01, 2012 9:56:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Thursday, March 01, 2012 9:56:00 AM

It's possible, but highly unlikely if you had the regular testing done. Just so you know, just because you have sex with someone who has HSV, even if unprotected, doesn't mean you will automatically get it.

Hope that helps.

Friday, March 02, 2012 11:32:00 AM  
Blogger worriedmom said...

I have genital herpes. If I have an outbreak and I itch myself, then wipe my daughters private area, could I pass it to her? I so it without even thinking about it because I'm still newly diagnosed. Please help!

Sunday, March 04, 2012 6:41:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

Hopefully, the toilet paper (I assume it was toilet paper) was enough of a guard to protect her against it. That's pretty close contact and it also depends on what the timing was from when you scratched yourself and then wiped your daughters vaginal area. I'm assuming a lot of things. It sounds like she's an infant? Just be careful and be sure to wash your hands. Probably didn't pass it on to her if it happened the way that I am assuming.

Sunday, March 04, 2012 9:12:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a 47 year old woman who has had genital herpes for 28 years. My first husband gave it to me 3 months after we were married. I have 3 children. I have always been so very careful to clean the bathtub thoroughly before every bath/shower they would have. About 5 months ago, my 12 year old daughter told me she had been itching in her genital region. I checked her out and was devastated to find that she had attempted to shave her pubic area with a razor I had left in the shower which I had used that day to shave my genital area. I didn't see any obvious sign of outbreak, but about 4 days later I noticed her scratching her nose uncontrollably. I have been living a nightmare with her for 5 months. She has had no outbreak on her nose, but everyday she has a new symptom of having spread it to her face. She tells me her sinuses feel as if there is something tickling her. She takes sneezing attacks that last for a couple of days. Her darlings have broken out in blisters as well as having them inside her mouth. I notice that she digs at her cheeks and chin all night long in her sleep yet there have been no outbreaks on those areas. Every night I pray that I did nit give her this disease. She is so frightened about what is happening to her body. I had been comforted somewhat by the fact that she had not shown signs of an outbreak in her genital region,however tonight, she has started scratching there again as well in her sleep. I took her to her pediatrician who I attempted to discuss the issue with privately, but he seemed unconcerned and said these things cam be treated with medication. When I asked if I could have a blood test performed to ease my mind, he said it really doesn't matter which type of HSV she might have and that they treat it with the same medication anyway. He gave her both an antibiotic for that sores in her mouth and earlobe, as well as acyclovir in case it was herpes. I have nit been able to stop thinking and praying for her. Every night I watch her sleep and hysterically begin crying at times. I need help! I don't know what type of doctor to take her to to find out for sure. I am positive in my own mind of the diagnosis though. I am so frightened. How will I ever explain to her what I have done to her life? I keep praying god will take it away from her but her symptoms have not stopped in all these months. I don't know where to turn. I have no one to talk to. I cry every night and pace the floors. I know I must get her to a doctor, but don't know how to get someone to talk to me privately and not reveal why they are examining her. They are always so busy. I don't know how to tell her father or if I should. We were not together long and he did not contract the disease from me, but he is a good father and has custodial time with her quite often. I am not sure she woukd want anyone to know. She is such a beautiful child inside and out. She prays daily and thanks god for all the blessings in her life. She is a very nervous girl though and is always scared she will get sick with something horrible. Please help me! I am losing my mind!

Thursday, March 29, 2012 4:53:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was diagnosed with herpes many when I was 16, Im 25 now. I have never had an outbreak. Is it possible to have herpes with out an outbreak? I have a 10 month old daughter now, what kind of precautions should I use around her?

Friday, March 30, 2012 12:13:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have herpes on my arm and was wondering when I go to bed I sleep with my shirt off...my arm rubs on my pillow and bed sheets...can I spread this elsewhere...mainly my face i'm concerned about?

Sunday, April 08, 2012 11:38:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Thursday, March 29, 2012 4:53:00 AM

first of all, you need to calm down. It's very possible that she simply has something else going on. Go to a different doctor and let them know what you suspect, but MAKE them do the test. I'd be curious to know what is going on. You both need some peace of mind. IF it is herpes, then you'll just have to deal with it. You are not a bad mother if somehow she contracted the virus. She'll be just fine. Let me know.

Monday, April 09, 2012 6:59:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Friday, March 30, 2012 12:13:00 AM

yes, it is possible to have herpes w/out an outbreak. In regard to your daughter, just make sure you are careful, especially when you are having an outbreak. Be sure to keep your towels separate especially if she snatches the towel from you right after you're done (for whatever reason). Herpes doesn't live outside the body for very long. Just don't share towels and that will help you to maintain your peace of mind. I think you will all be just fine.

Monday, April 09, 2012 7:02:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Sunday, April 08, 2012 11:38:00 AM

are you sure that you have herpes on your arm??? Have you been tested with it? If you're really uncomfortable about this, you can always sleep with sleeves on your arm or over the infected area. Unless you're a thrasher, meaning that you move around a lot in your sleep, then I doubt that you would pass this onto your face. It's kind of difficult for the virus to live outside of the body and away from a warm body at that for very long. I don't believe you have anything to worry about, but I could be wrong. Check w/your Dr is my best advice on this one.

Monday, April 09, 2012 7:04:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for your E-mail back on the herpes on the arm..I am a thrasher and doc said it was herpes on my arm.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012 3:36:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for your E-mail back on the herpes on the arm..I am a thrasher and doc said it was herpes on my arm.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012 3:37:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Wednesday, April 11, 2012 3:36:00 PM

But did the Dr do an actual culture or just a "visual" diagnosis? I just don't hear about herpes on the arm very much so if I were you, I'd want to be sure that it's even herpes.

Thursday, April 12, 2012 12:24:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi, I'm currently pregnant and suffer from Herpese type 2 (genital) I'm panicking that I won't be able to do things with my baby that other mothers could do, such as share the bath water with them. I also have outbreaks in my finger which is very painful but very infectious is the blisters burst, which they often do. I'm really scared that I would pass herpese onto my baby through either touching them or bathing with them? Could you help at all?

Wednesday, June 06, 2012 4:15:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for the information, it has calmed my nerves down that much more, I'm recently diagnosed with herpes, and in the transission of doubts and fear to accepting. I been having the occasional waking in middle of the night panic attacks, and worrying about infecting my daughter. The one thing I also find calming, is praying, and giving all my worries to God. Asking for his forgiveness, and giving my heart, soul, and total self to God. That is how I know I will get through this. Again, thank you.

Saturday, June 23, 2012 5:08:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok I am kind of worried because exactly last week my girlfriend of 5 months and I had sex. The next night I got home from work, I noticed a red bump on the beginning of my penis head. I freaked out and had Panic attacks so i looked up images of herpes and HPV yet it looks nothing alike. The bump hasn't itched or burned it's just discomforting knowing it's there. Now it's smaller And looks like it scabbed over... I don't seem to have any symptoms of either virus but it's still worrying me and I do not know what to do. I don't wanna go to my mom cause I'm too scared that she will think the worst but I want an opinion on what it may sound like coming from someone who has the virus..and if I should get to a doctor asap :( please please help I'm very scared and have nobody to talk to

Tuesday, June 26, 2012 4:31:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Wednesday, June 06, 2012 4:15:00 PM

You should ask your Dr. about your fingers issues. I guess I never really 'bathed' in the same bath water with my baby. Sounds like you haven't had herpes for very long? Wish I had good insight for you. Personally, IMO, in regard to your herpes, it would seem to me that if you don't have an open wound, you would be OK, but again, check with your Dr. Are you 100pct sure that the blisters on your fingers are herpes?

to anon from Saturday, June 23, 2012 5:08:00 PM

Good luck to you. Glad you were able to find some solice in my blog.
to anon from Tuesday, June 26, 2012 4:31:00 AM

maybe you have an ingrown hair or had one? In order to relieve yourself of worry, just go to the Dr. and have them check it out. You can have a blood test done to check for the HSV virus, even if you're not having an active outbreak. Not everything is herpes and hopefully for your sake, that will be the case. Good luck to you. Keep me posted. :-)

Tuesday, June 26, 2012 12:27:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is it possible that I have genital herpes while my two last boyfriends don't? Could I have been misdiagnosed? I've never had an outbreak. Thank you.

Friday, July 06, 2012 11:04:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

Yes, it's possible that you could have been or are a carrier. Yes, it's possible that you were misdiagnosed. Have you been tested for herpes? You have to ask for the specific test as it's not a standard testing that Dr's do for STD's.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012 10:04:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi I was wondering I have genital herpes my doctor said its ok to take a bath with my kids but not during outbreaks but a few times not knowing it Ive had outbreaks and went in the bath with them I thought they were hemroids so are my kids going to get genital herpes? Can hereps swim and attach to the skin? Will they one day get hereps from the sharing of bath water?And are you a doctor or a specalist?

Saturday, July 21, 2012 3:03:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I recently got a cold sore and my 2yr old scratched me on the mouth on the cold sore. I cleaned his hand with a baby wipe and then washed his hand. Would the virus stay in his finger?

Thursday, July 26, 2012 2:05:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My sister just found out she has genital herpes we had used the same sponge share the same shower and toilet were scared she will spread it to us. And I noticed a red rash on my back could that rash have anything too do with this?

Thursday, August 02, 2012 4:31:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I recently found out that I have genital herpes. I have four young kids and we would sometimes share the same bath sponge. Since I found out four months ago that I tested positive we have not shared anything. Two weeks ago my oldest that is ten came to me and said he thought he had a pimple on his genital area. I took him to the redicare and the dr there said he was just irritated from his bathing suit. It is still there two weeks later and he says that it itches. I share custody with his father and he has no clue about me being infected and I would like to keep it that way. I guess my question is should I have his blood tested or am I just overreacting??

Friday, August 03, 2012 11:41:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anonymous from Saturday, July 21, 2012 3:03:00 PM

No I am not a Dr or specialist. I tend to try to help people through the emotional aspects of living with herpes. However I do have my opinions on what can and can not be transmitted, however they are simply my opinions. I think many times we "think" we are contagious when in fact it's something else going on w/our bodies.

Thursday, July 26, 2012 2:05:00 AM

Again, I'm not a Dr, but I honestly don't think you've put your child at risk.
Thursday, August 02, 2012 4:31:00 AM

again, I'm not a Dr. I suspect it's not, but if are concerned, you should go to your Dr. and have a culture taken of it. Could be something very simple and totally unrelated to herpes.
Friday, August 03, 2012 11:41:00 PM

Did you tell your Dr. of your suspicions? If the rash/pimple?? is still there, just take your son back to the Dr to have it analyzed. It could be something totally different. And you're right, it's none of your ex's business unless you find out that you passed herpes onto your son. Then he should simply be aware for your son's sake only.

Monday, August 06, 2012 10:46:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

He doesn't come back until Friday so if it's there I will try to get him in with my dr. Thanks for all your help, it's nice to be able to get input from someone that actually is living with the same thing.

Monday, August 06, 2012 10:59:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am going through the exact same issues. I would love to talk to you more. Maybe we can be a comfort to each other. This sounds like me talking!!!

Thursday, August 16, 2012 10:30:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks so much for this blog. My daughter was diagnosed two days ago and I haven't been able to sleep. I feel like the poster who said she felt like a failure. I feel so bad for my daughter. I've been crying and just feeling awful. She is 20 and has the world ahead of her. She is still trying to figure out how she got it without having sex. She claims she hasn't had oral sex either. She was diagnosed at an immediate care facility, but has an appointment with her regular doctor in two days. I am praying that it was a misdiagnosis. My nephew had steph on his buttocks a few years ago and her symptons have mimicked (sp?) his. Again, I will you continue peace with this virus and thanks for being there for us.

Saturday, August 25, 2012 8:27:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to the anon Mom - Saturday, August 25, 2012 8:27:00 PM

Mom if you honestly believe her when she says she hasn't had sex, then I would suggest that she gets a blood test. I don't know what else to say, but if you don't have it, then you never passed it on to her. I am not a dr. however I do believe the only way to get herpes is through physical contact. Have her get the blood test. Good luck. She might be ashamed to admit that she had sex. Go easy on her and it's NOT the end of the world. She will not die and she will have a normal life if she doesn't allow it to consume her.

Thursday, August 30, 2012 12:31:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi. I'm wondering (in my research couldn't find anything) if you can spread it to other locations on your genitals by wiping after using the bathroom. I'm female, wipe front to back, and don't want it on my tush as well as my vulva. Thank you.

Sunday, September 09, 2012 9:34:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Sunday, September 09, 2012 9:34:00 PM

First of all, I'm not a Dr. but based on the logic I have read, I don't think you can, but yet on the other hand, anything is possible, so w/that said, I might simply change the way of doing my business. Everyone has a different opinion on these types of things. In my case, my main infection lies in my anal area and I don't believe I've ever spread it. I tend to clean one area, get additional TP and do the other part. I don't focus on it too much though really. Everyone is different. Some people claim that they have it on their hands or legs and I am not so sure that is what they really have going on, but again, I'm not a Dr. Ask your Dr. what they think, hopefully they know more about it.

Monday, September 10, 2012 4:40:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been living with the herpes virus for a couple months now, then out of the blue everyone in my house as of lately been having heat bumps and lil rash bumps all over their body, i hope im not spreading the virus.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012 1:14:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Wednesday, September 12, 2012 1:14:00 PM

It could be the laundry detergent you're using. Did you change that or anything else about the way you do things around the house. Just don't share your towels or washcloths or those scrunchy things and you should be fine. Not that the herpes virus lives very long outside the body, but shouldn't be sharing those things anyway. Hope that helps.

Thursday, September 13, 2012 10:56:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm freaking out I don't understand. I was tested not when I first found out I was pregnant. Me and my boyfriend have not had sex since I got pregnant I'm now 4 months and my doctor says I have it now how did I get it I'm lost and scared could the test have been wrong before ?

Friday, September 28, 2012 8:40:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Friday, September 28, 2012 8:40:00 AM

You could have had it and not known you had it. As long as you know, that's what is most important right now. That is one test that Dr's do test for. I had my son natural birth and didn't pass herpes on to him and so many other women I have talked to or gotten to know via the internet, never had any problems either. Just talk to your Dr. about it. It's best that you know and you'll be fine :-) Chin up!!

Friday, October 05, 2012 8:25:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey i just found out i got type 2 i have been with the same guy for over a year and i am the only one that has any sores he dont. we havnt been with anyone eles since we got to gether and have been having sex with him all the time and now i got told i have. he is going to get test too but if he dont have it how could i iam so confused about this that all i do is drink and it makes my mind think i.am just dream. if he does have it why would i just get it noe after a year and how long can a person not know they have it. is it normal to get on ur uper leg. plz relpy soon thanks. oh can i still have a kid and not give it to my kid

Saturday, October 13, 2012 5:10:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Saturday, October 13, 2012 5:10:00 PM

You have it on your upper leg? It is possible to be a carrier and to have never experienced an outbreak. It's not the end of the world. How were you diagnosed? visually or by a blood test?

Wednesday, November 07, 2012 12:09:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have type 2 can i give it to my new boyfriend if we use condoms?

Friday, December 21, 2012 1:57:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is this blog still working active??????!

Tuesday, September 09, 2014 1:10:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a cold sore and I'm only 16, I accidentally dried my face with my cold sore and then my genitals....will I get genital herpes now? The cold sore is almost gone and isn't open or oozing any fluid to get on the towel

Thursday, January 28, 2016 9:33:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

I'm going to assume you'll be fine. Just be more careful next time. If you are super concerned, you can always have your blood work typed. You already have herpes (cold sore) so you are still at risk of transferring to others. It's honestly not the end of the world. I'm here if you need me.

Friday, January 29, 2016 2:22:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was on vacation with my 9 year old nephew in a warm, humid environment. I regrettably got comfortable and left my washcloth in the shower, a habit I have as no one touches my wash cloths or towels in my home, so I thought it would be the same case in this shared vacation house. One day I went into the bathroom when my nephew was in the shower and saw, to my horror, that he had been using my wash cloth -- not the one I use on my body, but the "dedicated" one I use on my genitals! I don't know how long or how many times he had done this. I nearly panicked and my first thought was to get a clean wash cloth and make him suds down again, but knew he would be freaked out if I panicked like that, so I did nothing and hoped for the best. The next day he said his pee was burning. My heart sank. I really wished I had cleaned him down with a clean wash cloth when I saw him using mine. In this warm humid climate, it would not have been all that dry when he used it. I've actually tested negative for HSV 3 times, but I get cold sores that respond to Valtrex, so I know I have it, regardless of the tests. I think I've only had 2 genital outbreaks in 3 years, as it's HSV-1, but I was having my period at the time and never feel any symptoms during my period. As soon as my period stopped, I did feel a little itchy and took a round of Valtrex, but that was after the damage had been done. I was not on Valtrex when my nephew used my wash cloth. I was afraid to tell my sister what happened but asked her if he had been complaining any more but she didn't answer me. As a 9 year old, he also may not know to say anything and might be going through this alone. So, in this case of a wet wash cloth and him using it within a few hours of me, not to mention the burning pee, does it seem likely that I passed it on to him?? And how should I go about telling this to his mother? I love him to death and this is the absolute LAST thing I ever wanted to do to him. I am kicking myself for leaving my wash cloths around and will never ever do that again, but the lesson came too late. :(

Monday, March 21, 2016 12:08:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

How old is your nephew and did you actually ask him if he had any pains or did he offer the information. Does your sister know you have herpes? I honestly am not a doctor, but it would seriously depend on how long the wet washcloth had been setting there. You don't have to scare him with the thought of HERPES, but general hygiene of not using other family members washcloths might be something good for him to learn. Mind you, one would think that once you soaped up, then rinsed off, that said washcloth would be clean due to the soaps. I honestly think he's probably ok, depending on how the subject of his pee hurting. Some kids if you say something to them will start to believe they are having a pain if they think you are thinking they should??

Monday, March 21, 2016 8:10:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks for your quick response, Luanne. My nephew is 9, I never said anything to him. He mentioned the burning pee on his own. My sister knows I have cold sores, but he doesn't and I doubt he would know or understand what it is anyway. You're right, I should have used the opportunity as a teachable moment to tell him not to use other people's wash cloths, but I froze. I never said anything to him about this; he brought up the burning pee entirely on his own the next day. I did notice that he's going through some sort of fixation with his penis stage, likes saying the word a lot, that kind of thing, lol. The wet wash cloth was probably only there 2-3 hours before he used it. Yes, there was soap (body wash) on it, but I only casually rinsed it off. Now, I'm thinking there's nothing to do but wait until I hear more from their camp, unless you think I should bring it up? Thanks again!

Wednesday, March 23, 2016 12:32:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

I would say let it go - maybe he's been irritating it on his own and is confused by what he is feeling. Yes, I would let it go. Fortunately, even though herpes has an ugly social stigma it's not a death sentence. Many of us are trying to change that. More people have herpes than they realize and many don't get outbreaks very much. If you and your sister are close and if she's not judgemental, you might want to mention to her about teaching her son safer hygiene methods. I would confide in my sister, but that's just me :)

Wednesday, March 23, 2016 10:12:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Got it, thanks so much. What you're doing is a really great service to all of us. :)

Thursday, March 24, 2016 10:09:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

You're welcome. I've been there, a very long time ago :) but I totally get it and I will always have herpes, but it's always the same ole :) Basically we win some, we lose some. Shrugs shoulders and smiles. We won't die from herpes, definitely not the end of the world. I want people to embrace it as I have :) You know what they say, "it is what it is" :)

Thursday, March 24, 2016 10:46:00 PM  
Blogger anon said...

Has anyone used baking soda on their outbreaks??? I did and it burned like hell...anyone have any suggestions??? #newbie

Sunday, September 11, 2016 1:22:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

corn starch is what I have used and isn't painful. try that :)

Monday, September 12, 2016 10:39:00 AM  

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