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Monday, April 09, 2012

HX's Thoughts on Living with Herpes

I struggled to say it, to accept it. In the end it came out in words as my journey of acceptance began. Herein this safe environment I would care to share it, I have no idea whether it will help anyone, a part of me wishes it does!

I have a disease
I did not ask for it
I would never wish it on anyone
I believe I have come to terms
I have been accepted for me
I must never forget it,
I have moved on, I am living, I am human
I have the rights anyone does.
I can love, be loved.
I deserve it.
I will never judge, I should be grateful not spiteful, my disease is a burden on me, no one else. I carry it-but I will not let it shape me.
Grateful for my perspective, pure for my acceptance
Unlike how many others?
Judgement is a disease far more hurtful than anything I should bare.

In what ever way you start to accept yourself it is definitely worthwhile!


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi, im not sure how to use this blog but i really need help asap. I found out a few months ago i have genital hurpes type 1, after my partner of 3yrs cheated on me. We are no longer together for other reasons aswell. I had not had intercourse since finding out and to be honest didnt do much research as my doc didnt make it a big deal. Now I have been seing this guy for 2-3months, I have not told him I have hurpes as It had not sinken in how serious it was. Heres the problem (my hugest mistake) A few days ago after a few drinks we were just mucking around in bed (fall play) He did try to have intercourse but I said no, i have been sore since as I have not had intercourse in 5months. Can hurpes be trasmitted through fall play, if he touches me with his hands then touches himself also can it be transmitted if he rubed against me? I have to tell him before we do have intercourse but am worried he will hate me, I have never had to deal with this type of situation on my own and im freaking out, I cant stop breaking down and crying. I have gone to see a doctor for help but I walked out feeling like an idiot I was more confused and upset, all I had from that was medication I asked for. I have no idea how to explain it to him, also I have no idea if he could of been affected from fall play. I really do care about this person and am disgusted in myself for not telling him but I had no one telling me. Please help what do I do?

Wednesday, April 25, 2012 4:05:00 AM  
Blogger Luanne said...

to anon from Wednesday, April 25, 2012 4:05:00 AM

I had an entire response to you and it didn't take :(

Are you saying you were "sore" because you are having an outbreak? If so, then yes, you could transfer it from rubbing each other genitally. I hope you've had a chance to read other responses. Do the right thing and tell. You'll be OK and I know how hard it is. Good luck and keep me posted.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012 12:26:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was just diagnosed with herpes. I have a 3 year old son n im paranoid he will get it. i have been washing my hands like crazy. i wanted to know how to properly take a shower n dry myself? And also do i have to wash my sons clothes seperatly from mine? -RR

Saturday, August 11, 2012 11:08:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Its glad to see the helpful blog regarding herpes dating and i was looking for herpes dating sites on the google search engine and i found your blog and you have done pretty impressive work on this blog...

Monday, January 08, 2018 1:17:00 PM  
Blogger Luanne said...

thank you Unknown - it's rather funny how people think I should keep updating. There's really not much more to say about it. There are tons of comments to read.

Were you able to "find support" with people. I highly recommend "support through socialization". I can't say enough how helpful it is to people.


Tuesday, January 09, 2018 10:53:00 AM  

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