Do Fellas Need Herpes Support?
One of my commenters said this:
"I have been reading many comments from woman like me. Woman who are fearful, brave and everything in between but what I feel would really be helpful would be if we had some men post on here!!"??
It seems that there are no men who are sharing their stories. We women want to know, from a mans perspective what would they think of dating a girl with herpes if they don't have it, how often do they tell their partners if they do, and what are the best things someone could say when telling to make them less fearful of a relationship with herpes?
It is with this information that I feel I could really make progress in understanding what the reaction of my partner to be will be and creating a "telling" story that fits me."
So if you're a man, reading this post, please do express your thoughts and feelings here as it may be helpful for someone else.
Labels: "The Talk", Herpes Acceptance, Herpes Awareness, Herpes Stories, Herpes Telling, Social Stigma
posted by Luanne @ 10:42 AM
4 Comments:
I'm a 33 year old man, and I just got the confirmation today that I have HSV-2. My ex had it, I was hoping I didn't get if from her, but I did. I did know that she had the virus, but we already had plenty of unprotected sex before she found out. I didn't break up with her because she tested positive, we were just more careful. Hell, she is the 2nd person I dated who had herpes. I knew you can still be a couple and have a relationship with one person being HSV positive. I don't blame her for this, she was just as clueless as I. Now 2 months after we break up, I have a mild outbreak and immediately get tested. Positive.. Already got meds on-hand for another breakout and a bottle of lycine.
Naturally, I am browsing online at all of the different scenarios, treatments, ideas, diets and general advice. This is a great blog with quality content.
As far as a mans perspective is concerned, there are many of the same emotion as many of the ladies have posted on here. I'm a bit worried and feel alone, however I was educated about herpes. I it is one of those things that isn't a big deal, while it still is a big deal.
I just met a nice gal recently, and if we decide to develop an intimate relationship, I will be open with her. If she isn't as understanding as I have been in the past, then it isn't worth it...
Okay, back to reading all your blog.
Thank you for taking the time to post. I read your comment, way back when, but never had a chance to pop in and acknowledge. Hope alll is going well with you and glad you have the right attitude.
Hi, I'm only 20 years young and while i was in a two year long relationship my partner cheated on me and ended up getting and giving herpes to me.. That was when i was rite about to turn 18 , we are broken up now and she is the only person in this whole world that knows i have this.. it took me a long time to actually be ok and not as sad bc of it, but i haven't dated again and am so afraid too bc i don't want to spread it and be seen as a bad person when im really not , what makes me really sad about it is how young i am and that all i want is love honestly.. i cant come up with the courage to even tell family or best friends about it bc i don't want to be judged even tho i shouldn't care what people think, but i do.i started using heroin until i OD'd and died for a minute in a bathroom at a fast food place, i woke up with that shot sicker then ever then shot my last shot and went to rehab. I just got clean now 2 months ago and that's why i say i want love ,someone to hold kiss and actually talk to as i feel i have no one to talk to ( lost all my friends while being an addict) and the amazing feeling of love could replace drugs forever, but i don't know what to do.. i feel like there is no girl my age that would want me knowing i have herpes. I'm so depressed for many reasons ( i didn't do heroin just bc of herpes but it was another excuse) i just want someone to talk to , friends or better yet someone to hold. Im a very shy person so its hard for me to even find any and im not in school an work with all old people so there's no one to meet. I don't know what to do to be happy all i do is study science, space and reality as i love those topics , hopefully il get into college soon were i can meet some people :) but still my secret wont come out to be able to date. how do you guys\girls do it? what makes you feel ok with yourself and accept it better and find someone to love or date? this is the first time iv ever said anything like this to anyone and told the truth to that's why il stay Anonymous here.. sorry for not making sense in some parts, being off topic and my poor grammar, i just needed to vent and tell someone ( even people i don't know an don't know me) in this world who might be or is going threw the same things , my lil part of my life. if you read all this thank you, i wish the best for all of you an have a great day!
-Anonymous
to anon from Friday, January 20, 2012 4:29:00 PM
OMG, I wish I could just talk to you. Sounds like you need to be able to talk about this freely to someone. Trust me, that's what you truly need to do to start the healing process my friend. I've lived with herpes since 1987-ish (I don't even remember anymore really) but I do understand your feelings oh so well. I also understand you wanting to remain anonymous. I encourage you to read through some of these other comments on my blog and the other entries. I'm hoping you'll find some comfort in some of what others have said and what I have said as well.
In a nutshell, your life is NOT over and you WILL find love again. Herpes IS NOT a death sentence nor should you feel as though you need to hold this burden inside of yourself.
I'm concerned for your well being.
Post a Comment
<< Home