Telling is Freeing
I know how difficult it is to tell someone that you have herpes, but it's really something that needs to be done and can be so freeing for you the one who is dealing with this little piece of baggage once it's off of your chest.
Dating is an adventure on it's own w/out all of the extra things we tend to bring into a relationship with us. It's just another thing which we need to be up front about when getting to know someone (before sex of course) :-) It's never easy but it has to be addressed.
Keep telling, eventually someone will respect you enough for your honesty and find that you're worth being with. Staying calm while telling and not being histerical is also very important. It's nothing to fear, just something that if you're really not into a person completely, then it's not worth the risk of even having sex with them anyway. I personally don't tell too soon, because it's important for a prospective mate to know you for you and that you are not HERPES, because we are NOT HERPES. Also, it's not a horrible thing to wait for too long to tell (as long as you tell prior to having sex). The only horrible thing about it is that you could have another outbreak while you're stressing about telling.
So let it go, get it off of your chest and it will free you.
Labels: Herpes Telling
posted by Luanne @ 12:43 PM
4 Comments:
thank you for this, i find it very postive and helpful.
You're welcome K Lynne99. That's the bottom line w/dealing w/herpes and telling. You have to face it head on and just do what you have to do as a responsible adult. :-)
I echo your sentiments. Herpes, with all the negative connotation it carries, shouldn't be perceived as a negative label like leprosy. Many good people can live and manage with this virus and carry on with normal lives. It's a matter of accepting it and working with your health care provider to control it. It's never over for anyone with herpes. Read some of the stats from CDC.gov or seek treatment from the thousands of low-cost or even free std testing clinic across the country. Many offer counseling services as well. Help is always available to anyone who might feel at the end of their rope with this virus.
to anon from Monday, August 15, 2011 9:00:00 AM
Thank you for stopping by and posting. It's helpful to others to understand, it's "just a virus".
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