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Thursday, August 30, 2012

I fucked up!! I didn't tell.

Yep, me, the one who has been living with herpes for 25 + years, had sex with someone and didn't tell and believe you me, I KNOW BETTER, but I also know that I am human.  I'm sorry, I'm ashamed and at the moment, was being very selfish.  OK, so I've bashed myself enough.  Now my fingers are crossed.  Hoping that he doesn't call me and say "what is this shit"?  One of our biggest fears when we make this mistake of not telling prior to sex!!  OK, so you're saying, is all of this swearing necessary?  Umm, well, no, not really, but it's truly what I'm thinking as I type so to me, it's all good.  :-)   Again, I'm human.  Should I go to confession for my sins?  I think not, because what's done is done and it is what it is.   Herpes sucks!!  Yep, it sure does.  I'm sure if I hear from him again, I will then tell him, hoping he doesn't get really pissed or abusive.  Trust me, if I deem it worthy of a post, you'll hear about it.

Things happen.  I won't die and he won't die, but I do pride myself on striving for totally honesty and communication.

Damn Corona's anyway!!  :(


I don't post much

but how much does living with herpes change.  I'm here for you and even though I might not post on a regular basis, I do read your comments and try to respond at least on a monthly basis at a minimum.  There are a lot of people who are newly diagnosed and I've been living with herpes since 1987.  Hmmm, let's see, that would be holy crap, 25 years!!  Dang, where has time gone to?  In some instances, I have told and in others I have not.  I'm human, just like you or your child or friend or whoever you are concerned about.  Mostly, it's those of us who are actually suffering with the stigma.  That's the hard part, but it's not the end of the world.  All I can say is "shit happens" and if we had the option of a "do-over" we would all choose "do-over" please  :-)   The majority of us won't die from it and there are rare instances of neonatal herpes which is a bit more life threatening.  Please don't let that scare you though because doctors always check for that when you do your preliminary checking during your pregnancy.  OB's deal with this all the time and will discuss your options with you.

Just know that I am here and reading what you have to say.